Interstellar Adventures

June 14, 2006


Filed under: Elle & Zed,The Ex Files — by InterstellarLass @ 9:08 am

My Mavericks lost last night. Just by 2 though. Dirk didn’t show up for the game until the 2nd half, and they let Wade score 42. Let’s hope Thursday’s game is better. I want a Championship!

On Monday I saw my personal trainer. She worked the hell out of me and I still hurt bad. I’m sore all over, but just enough where it feels like I’m sick rather than sore.

Elle attempted to emotionally blackmail me on Monday night. After her bath, I was in her room, playing Mancala. She’s pretty good, and she beat me 2 games out of 3. I’m starting to pick up the strategy though, so I’ll be tougher in the end. Anyhooo…when we’d played our three games, it was time for bed. I hugged her, kissed her, told her that I loved her. She then proceeded to cling to me, and wouldn’t let go. Elle, I warned her, it’s time to go to bed. We’ve played, we’ve said our good-nights, now let go. She wouldn’t. She grabbed tighter and wouldn’t stop. I warned her again. Wouldn’t let go. Last time, I lightly swatted her behind and pulled my arm away from her. She proceed to pout and then said it.

Blondie is better than you.

Blondie being her dad’s fiance. I knew she said it to hurt and to make me feel guilty. Well, it did hurt, just to hear it come out of her mouth. Cut me deep. But I know she didn’t mean it. I just stood and looked at her and said I’m sorry you would say something so ugly to me and left her room.

I went back in later to tell her that I knew she didn’t mean it. She of course turned on the tears and was so sorry. I emphasized to her that saying things to hurt people’s feelings on purpose was a very bad thing and that I didn’t want her to do it again.

Then, last night, Elle told me that Zed told his dad that I’d said it was their dad’s fault they’d been sunburned so bad. Their dad’s response? “Well, we’ll just stay inside and read next time.” No accounting for his own responsibility, and turning it back on the kids and “punishing” them for his incompetence and saying “Well, if I can’t take you swimming without sunscreen then I’m not going to take you swimming at all.” What a buffoon. Can I scream now?


    You’ve earned it.

    Comment by UziCue — June 14, 2006 @ 10:54 am |Reply

  2. What an arsehole! I cant believe the attitude of that man!

    Comment by serendipity — June 14, 2006 @ 11:48 am |Reply

    growing up with divorced parents, i can completely relate and i can say you’re doing great!

    Comment by Shannon — June 14, 2006 @ 12:16 pm |Reply

  4. Her name is Blondie? What the heck kind of name is that? I’m sorry all of this sucks so bad. My ex is bad, but it sounds like yours takes the cake.

    Comment by Jolynn — June 14, 2006 @ 1:03 pm |Reply

  5. Go ahead and scream I sure as hell would have!

    Comment by Claire — June 14, 2006 @ 2:37 pm |Reply

  6. My sister is going through a similar thing. Her son came back home after a yr stint at his father’s(you know…the emotional blackmail that life would be better there-well, she let him go to find out firsthand so she wouldn’t have to bad mouth him). Dad refused to cooperate with the modification and wanted her prosecuted for not returning this 16 yr. old. Welp, the gloves came off and when all was said and done, he got to drag her through the mud because he lost the last court battle too(10 yrs. ago- he came off like a pouty-ass,oppressive moron) and then he got his child support tripled (BH, the brilliant atty, handed him his asssss in court). So, now he’s been calling the kids telling them he’s gonna lose his house, his jeep, he can’t take their half-brother to the Dr. because their mom is taking all of his money. So now, all the kids feel unentitled to anything which is really sad, because when anything good happens in their life, they will have that shadow of “I don’t really deserve it”.

    Sucky men just suck, ya know?

    Scream as loud as you want. Might not help, but you might feel better.

    Comment by SurrenderDorothy — June 14, 2006 @ 2:46 pm |Reply

  7. Go ahead…scream your head off. Why the the hell do exes have to do crap like that??

    P.S. Anybody named Blondie who ain’t a the singer must be umm..challenged.

    Comment by poopie — June 14, 2006 @ 3:51 pm |Reply

  8. Ouch. Sorry you had to go through that.

    Just remember that she’s probably hurting, too.


    Comment by Raehan — June 14, 2006 @ 4:26 pm |Reply

  9. Crap. If it’s not one thing it’s another! I think you handled it really well with Elle, though.

    Comment by abbynormal — June 14, 2006 @ 4:37 pm |Reply

  10. Scream and kick inanimate objects!!!

    This is the one thing that makes me glad Kendell’s father is not around.

    Comment by KaraMia — June 14, 2006 @ 4:55 pm |Reply

  11. uggh, blogger ate my comment!! I was saying you just have to be tough and let things slide off, because kids really don’t mean them. been there, surviving that.

    Comment by Uisce — June 14, 2006 @ 5:55 pm |Reply

  12. Man… I’d like to send you a punching bag to use to vent some steam, and when your ex isn’t looking, i’m going to push him in front of it when you take the biggest swing.
    I can’t believe her name is BLONDIE? irkkk.

    Hang in there, Lass. Elle sounds like she might be working through some things internally. I think you handled it fine… Seriously, what she said would have to sting. I think I would have snapped too- and you’re only human, after all.

    Comment by Laura — June 14, 2006 @ 8:19 pm |Reply

  13. Ouch! That is frustrating. I don’t know how you do it. I agree, SCREAM!

    Comment by Nancy — June 14, 2006 @ 10:22 pm |Reply

  14. Ouch. And yeah, sounds like you handled it very well.

    A girl I dated introduced me to Mancala. And by introduced, I mean, beat me every single game.

    Comment by Bone — June 15, 2006 @ 12:47 am |Reply

  15. Is the chronic stupidity something new with the ex? OK, yes, we’ve all been burnt, but we now know better and know about sunscreen, etc. Dork! Yes, scream and then run and hug Nick for being not stupid and for being wonderful!

    Comment by Carnealian — June 15, 2006 @ 7:52 am |Reply

  16. With a name like Blondi, she can’t have much between her ears.

    Comment by Jean-Luc Picard — June 15, 2006 @ 2:38 pm |Reply

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