Interstellar Adventures

May 4, 2007

Another Favor

Filed under: Family & Friends,Interstellar Casa,It's Me, Lass,Married Life,Mr. Wonderful — by InterstellarLass @ 11:58 am

I’m being awfully needy this week. I’m usually not like this.

Today we got another call. At first I feared it was worse than it really was. Nick got a call from his dad’s neighbor. Fortunately it wasn’t that call. See, Pop is deaf, and so he had the neighbor call Nick to talk to him. Then Pop got on the phone. He told Nick that he’s tired, that he aches, and that he’s lonely. He wanted the neighbor to bring his car to us. And then he asked Nick if he could come live with us. His exact words: ‘Son, do you think you could take me in?’.

So, Nick is flying to El Paso tonight. He’ll help his dad gather some things up, and then he’s bringing him home to stay with us. I’m pretty sure this is going to be permanent. I don’t think it’ll just be for a while until he feels better.

This weekend, my mom is coming to help me clear out my office. Elle will be temporarily displaced, as the office is too far from the bathroom for Pop to stay.

My heart is breaking for Nick. It’s only in the past couple of years since his mom died that he really got to know his dad. So he’s very upset that his dad has made this request. For a man like Pop to ask for this means that he’s likely ready to start dying.

Please keep my dear husband and his sweet father in your thoughts and prayers…for Nick to have a safe flight and that they both have a safe drive back…that I have strength this weekend as I have to clear space and make room for a most welcome visitor, for however long he may choose to stay…for my children to have the patience to deal with this sudden change to their life.

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11 Comments »

  1. *hugs* I have you and your family in my prayers.

    Thank you.

    ~IL

    Comment by Froggie — May 4, 2007 @ 12:56 pm |Reply

  2. Praying now. It seems that, although this is the nature of things, it is still so very difficult to see a parent age and become frail. Surreal.

    He’s still pretty spry for 87. Installed a toilet in his house last summer, all by himself. And he and his 92 y.o. BFF were draining the swamp cooler on the roof too.

    Comment by TSM — May 4, 2007 @ 7:54 pm |Reply

  3. Awww, Lass.
    You know I’m thinking about you guys.
    You are both deserving of high praise here (even though I know you’re not looking for it)
    Be strong and pray often.
    If we can’t do for the people that raised us who can we help?
    Keep us posted, ok?
    ~m

    Thanks Michael. I’m honored that he called us.

    ~IL

    Comment by ~m — May 5, 2007 @ 4:17 am |Reply

  4. I think it is so amazing of his dad to ask to live with you. {{{{HUGS!}}}}

    I’m truly amazed that we got the call. He’s very independent and made his own way in this world from the time he was 17. Depending on others is a foreign concept to him, so I’m very glad he made the call.

    ~IL

    Comment by Nancy — May 5, 2007 @ 6:37 am |Reply

  5. Aw, Lass-
    I think it’s sweet that he wants to be near his son & family. Maybe it’s more about wanting to reconnect and spreading his love and affection around than it is about giving up. I think it will be good for all of you – a new dynamic to the family. It gives me a warm fuzzy feeling.
    WC

    I think with the elderly, loneliness and depression can be just as deadly as cancer or stroke. As sappy as it sounds ‘People Need People’. There’s a mystery to the human connection, and if that’s what it takes to make him better, then that’s what we do!

    ~IL

    Comment by writerchick — May 5, 2007 @ 8:41 am |Reply

  6. Angels are smiling….you are doing a good thing. They take care of you when you are small, you take care of them when they are old. Thank goodness he called. Lots of love to you guys!

    I hope there’s someone to take care of me when I get old. We all need at different times in our life.

    ~IL

    Comment by carnealian — May 5, 2007 @ 3:23 pm |Reply

  7. Man, it’s hard to get old. It’s got to be so hard to lose your independence and have to rely on someone else.Many older people won’t make that call, they don’t want to be a burden. Yet, it’s got to be so hard! Nick’s dad sounds like a great guy. I have no doubt this is going to be a huge change for all of you, but it’s so good to read about such an unselfish and loving act where family comes first.
    If kids learn by example, then they are learning volumes from you two right now. Hugs and blessings to both of you and good luck guys. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts!

    I agree that family comes first. As much as I complain about mine, when they’re in need, I jump to help. When an 87 year old man calls, it’s not just for attention. It’s because he’s desperately in need. I could never turn my back on someone that reaches out. I definitely believe that there is a right thing to do, and no matter what the difficulty encountered at first, it all works out in the end.

    ~IL

    Comment by Laura — May 5, 2007 @ 6:51 pm |Reply

  8. some of my very bestest best memories when I was little are of my great grandfather who lived with us. And he wasn’t necessarily the easiest person, rumor has it. Lots of prayers that it will be an easy transition for all of you…

    I think grandparents are always better with the little kids. I have fond memories of my great-grandparents as well.

    ~IL

    Comment by Kristen — May 5, 2007 @ 8:13 pm |Reply

  9. I remember my great-grandmother getting burned and staying at my grandmother’s house when I was little. It’s the cycle of life sometimes.

    I think this is awesome of you guys. And I think that kids often adjust better to such things than adults.

    Comment by Bone — May 7, 2007 @ 7:48 am |Reply

  10. I wish your family all the best. Hang in there and I know you can handle this situation. Stay strong.

    Comment by Jolynn — May 9, 2007 @ 9:05 am |Reply

  11. That is awesome that you’re taking him in. All parents should be so lucky.

    Comment by annie — May 9, 2007 @ 8:34 pm |Reply


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