Interstellar Adventures

May 7, 2007

Bone Tired

Filed under: Family & Friends,Interstellar Casa,It's Me, Lass — by InterstellarLass @ 7:36 pm

I think I hurt everywhere. Maybe there’s a spot right on top of my head that doesn’t hurt, but I’m not quite sure. I have worked my tail off the last three days.

Elle now has a room. Pop does too, and a new recliner. The garage has been cleaned out, and excess furniture has found a home in the space the cleaning created. Umpteen loads of laundry have been washed, dried and folded. We also made 1 trip to Goodwill and 1 trip to the city solid waste facility. We also visited Home Depot for some shower safety equipment.

Pop is a little concerned that he’s getting in the way. But it’s just everyone finding their groove and adjusting. My greatest fear is that he’s going to get bored. At his house, he had chores and his birds, knew where the grocery store was, and his favorite restaurants. Here, he’s commented that he’s useless. Today he emptied out the bathroom garbage. I made sure to thank him for that. I also told him that I’d show him our washer and dryer so he can do his own wash. That will give him something else to do.

Besides that, I’m not sure what else he can do. He doesn’t hear at all (sidenote: He’s actually enjoying Dancing With the Stars because he can see the dancing and not have to follow any plot.) his vision is OK, but not great. His hands are arthritic, and his walking is a little shaky. His hobby at home was feeding the birds. Here we have mostly grackels – I’ve seen a few jays and cardinals occasionally.

Thank you all for your well wishes. I hope to be able to get around and visit you all very soon. I just need to catch up on so much!


  1. Is it possible to set up a bird feeder outside for him? I can understand his desire not to be a burden. Hub’s grandparents are in their 80’s and stay with us every winter. They won’t rest until I give them something to do. I find I have to scratch my head over things that they can do within their limitations.
    I don’t know your grandfather well, but IF you’re interested, some of the things they did for us included raking leaves, sweeping up the endless dog hair, dusting, folding towels, small things like that. His grandfather would go out every morning to water the garden for me… my plants never looked better than when he was here. lol.
    The girls played cards and board games also.
    Don’t forget the closed captioning on the TV, that might help out as well.

    Good luck as you all settle in, I think it’s great what you’re doing and no doubt a big change for all of you.

    Comment by Laura — May 8, 2007 @ 5:10 am |Reply

  2. It is a big adjustment for him as well. I am sure you all will find a routine that works for all of you. Too bad he can’t hear, books on tape would be great for him….

    Comment by nancy — May 8, 2007 @ 7:22 am |Reply

  3. Big hugs for you all. {hugs}

    Comment by Gypsy — May 8, 2007 @ 7:33 am |Reply

  4. How bout some birdfeeders in the yard? It’s always nice to have the birdies chattering away nearby.

    Yea, I think y’all will find your groove and things will be smooth sailing.

    Comment by carnealian — May 8, 2007 @ 7:46 pm |Reply

  5. Hey Lass,
    It will sort out soon enough. Why not see if he is interested in planting a little garden. Nothing fancy – maybe a few veggies or if that is too much work a butterfly garden. If you get hummingbirds out your way, he can put out feeders and keep them going.

    I don’t if you mean he is deaf or just hard of hearing. But if he is deaf, does he know sign language? Perhaps he could teach the kids and/or you guys.

    Also, being the test taster for all your new dishes could be an honor bestowed upon him.

    LOL – I’m full of ideas, eh? Or maybe just full of it.

    Comment by writerchick — May 8, 2007 @ 8:25 pm |Reply

  6. What you are doing for him is heart-warming. Really. And I think it would be good for his esteem if you could think up a few things for him to do around the house, as well as a new hobby – puzzles, crosswords, who knows?

    Comment by Jay — May 9, 2007 @ 5:10 am |Reply

  7. hang in there. It may get a little harder over there before it gets easier. You are doing great.

    Comment by Kristen — May 9, 2007 @ 5:19 am |Reply

  8. Hey There Lass –

    I’ve frequently lurked around your site, but being somewhat shy, nver felt inclined to reply. However, your recent posts about Pop have inspired me to delurk !!

    If birds are what he enjoys, don’t worry that all you see at the moment are grackels – plant a few of the right plants and put out some of the right food, and they’ll come flocking. There are loads of birds to be seen in Texas (see : and with a little patience, you’ll get some of them to the garden. You’ve already got what looks like a bird friendly garden (lots of green shelter) – it may take a little time, but be patient and they will come. Take a look at for some ideas (or just Google for Backyard Birding) – and perhaps Elle & Zed will enjoy helping Pop put out the food and planting the right plants, and start to learn a few new birds to boot !!

    I have been in a similar situation with an ill relative – it was a joy to see their joy the first time a Bluetit bought a young fledgling to the bird table for breakfast.

    Hope whatever you find to make Pop tick it works out for you all.

    Comment by U.K. Lurker — May 9, 2007 @ 12:29 pm |Reply

  9. Check out “Birdwatcher”.
    It’s a pretty nifty program you can install on your computer.
    Great graphics, great birdsong (I know you don’t really need that but…)
    Check it out anyway.


    Comment by ~m — May 9, 2007 @ 5:57 pm |Reply

  10. I feel ya. My mom just went home after being here since the day after christmas. Getting the house ready for her to come almost killed me.

    Comment by usedtobeme — May 11, 2007 @ 12:25 am |Reply

  11. *hugs* I am sure everyone will eventually find their place and things will feel normal again. Hand in there!

    Comment by froggie — May 12, 2007 @ 10:39 am |Reply

  12. Wow, and I thought I’ve been busy! Feeling “useless” is not a good thing for anyone. Hopefully once he gets comfortable in his new digs, he will find “useful” outlets. If not, he can always start a blog.

    Comment by AbbyNormal — May 12, 2007 @ 11:27 am |Reply

  13. Happy Mother’s Day, Lass!

    Hope everything is going well with the new living arrangements.

    Comment by Bone — May 13, 2007 @ 8:34 am |Reply

  14. I wonder if there’s something else he could feed besides birds. Squirrels? Neighborhood pets? I’m not sure what kind of animals live in your neck of the woods…

    Comment by Optimist Under Siege — May 13, 2007 @ 1:59 pm |Reply

  15. I’m so glad you can make a home for him, that’s something to be proud of. I hope everyone settles in soon.

    Happy Mother’s Day!

    Comment by Jen — May 13, 2007 @ 2:53 pm |Reply

  16. Thinking of ya

    Comment by wisbo — May 14, 2007 @ 3:51 am |Reply

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