Interstellar Adventures

September 16, 2007

Overheard in the makeup aisle

Filed under: It's Me, Lass,Rants & Opinions — by InterstellarLass @ 10:11 pm

I was doing some shopping at Target this evening. I needed a creme-to-powder foundation because a) my liquid foundation is a little too dark, and b) I’m flying to Cincinnati this week, and my liquids bag space limit is, well, limited. Sadly, my usual brand was out of the color I needed, so I was taking my sweet time, exploring the other brands and colors.

As I was gagging over the Boots No 7 foundation price, I hear a very loud, very obnoxious, very angry voice from the end of the aisle. A guy and a girl had a cart near the end cap, and he was yelling at her, telling her to hurry the f*ck up, telling her she was ‘stupidly’ staring at products and couldn’t make up her f*cking mind. At first I didn’t look up, but as the insults continued, I couldn’t help but turn to look at him and stare his angry ass down.

She didn’t see me looking, but I caught his eye and raised my eyebrows at him. He looked away and moved the cart to another aisle. Where he continued to bereate her. She asked him several times to leave her alone, to stop yelling, and to let her finish. But he didn’t. They moved again to another end of the cosmetics section, further away, and he was still going at her.

So, I turned my cart, approached them. “Are you all right?” I asked. She looked at me and didn’t say anything. Then he said “Yeah she’s all right. She’s my sister.”. Then she said to him to cut it out and stop being so loud. I still continued to stand there as he walked back toward her again. Then she looked at me and said “Yes, I’m OK.” And then they walked off.

I usually don’t stick my nose in other people’s arguements, but this went on, and it was loud, and it was very apparent that he was very angry. I thought maybe if I brought it to his attention that he was being obnoxious, he would quiet down. But then I thought, well, what if approaching him made it worse for her. I was 100% prepared to find a Target employee or security guard. I mean this guy was picking stuff up from the basket, leaning over into the girls face, and then slamming the stuff back down. This wasn’t just someone frustrated. This was someone that gets ugly. A little later, I was on the Eye Care aisle, and I saw the girl walk by again, with a case of soda on her shoulder. She smiled at me, although rather weakly.

My step-dad was a yeller. And so was my Ex, when he was drunk. I don’t like people that yell. It scares me and it brings up those feelings of smallness and helplessness that I used to feel in those situations. And to me, if someone is willing to exhibit that behavior in public, they’ll go even further in private. Whether he was this girl’s brother or not, there was no reason for him to be yelling at her in Target. I just hope I didn’t cause any further problems for her.

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16 Comments »

  1. Good for you for checking in with her. What a bastard that guy was.

    Comment by Gypsy — September 17, 2007 @ 8:20 am |Reply

  2. good for you is right, but don’t be doing that in some other places that are not as generally safe as Targe’t

    Comment by Sparky Duck — September 17, 2007 @ 12:27 pm |Reply

  3. wow you’re brave, but good for you all the same! i hate it when that kind of thing happens, and it doesn’t matter who he was, he shouldn’t have done it!!

    Comment by serendeipity — September 17, 2007 @ 12:37 pm |Reply

  4. i think it’s awesome that you were brave enough to approach them… he sounds like a class-a asshole and i hope he is indeed her brother and NOT her beau of choice.

    Comment by Kristin — September 17, 2007 @ 10:49 pm |Reply

  5. I think it’s marvellous that you intervened… and I would have done the very same thing…. it sickens me when I see people behaving like this.

    Comment by Carol-anne — September 18, 2007 @ 2:09 pm |Reply

  6. I think you were right to do what you did. I always try to make sure they know that I see/hear them. But I agree when you said if he acts like this in public, he is probably worse in private.

    Comment by usedtobeme — September 18, 2007 @ 6:48 pm |Reply

  7. Well, good for you for sticking your nose in this time. If the guy’s that obnoxious and controlling in public, imagine what happens in private.

    Comment by abbynormal — September 19, 2007 @ 10:02 am |Reply

  8. Wow, I know what you mean. We have these neighbors and the husband is the biggest pig I’ve ever seen. He is always talking harshly and sometimes we have no idea what he’s saying, his voice just sounds gruff. Other times, we hear exactly what he’s saying because he is so loud. He calls his wife stupid and says she’s the worse driver in the world and tells her nobody likes her. It’s awful. I don’t get involved, because they’re are neighbors and I have never seen physical abuse. If I do though I will call the police and I will be a witness.

    Comment by Jolynn — September 19, 2007 @ 1:48 pm |Reply

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  10. I think you did the right thing. Doesn’t seem like you could possibly have made it any worse.

    I was at a convenience store in Orlando a few weeks ago and there was this guy yelling at the lady behind the counter (en espanol). Ok, maybe I was in a yucky part of town…but. This guy just kept going on and on and on. There were about 6 people waiting to pay for our stuff. I was the last in line. Finally, I could tell the woman directly behind him was feeling very uneasy, so I stepped up to said Latino and asked him nicely to please step aside so that we could pay for our gas and snacks to which he replied, “No Comprende.” “Oh No You Di-int!” I thought. So I picked the Meskin up by the nape of the neck and tossed him out of the store, to the cheers of the other 6 in the store.

    I’m a totally nonviolent person, but this man just made me snap. When I through him out I asked, “Do you understand that…you (expletive)!

    Comment by tony — September 22, 2007 @ 10:32 am |Reply

  11. Ooops. through=threw

    Comment by tony — September 22, 2007 @ 1:25 pm |Reply

  12. I’m glad you said something. I was in a store where there was a woman who spoke to her elderly mother in a tone that was so rude, biting, and dismissive as she ordered her to get something off the shelf, get out of the way, what’s wrong with you.

    Finally, as we all stood in long checkouts, I could hear her up ahead snapping at her mother and I couldn’t stand it any longer. I stepped up and said, you know, You really make yourself look bad talking to your mother like that in the store. There are plenty of people who have lost their mom’s and you are treating yours so disrespectfully – you really make yourself look ungrateful. She snapped something, and I said, “The rest of us aren’t here to listen to you behave so poorly in public. Get some manners!” and I walked back to my cart… I was pretty nervous about the confrontation, until people started saying “thank you”, and “My mother’s passed on…” and “I’m glad you said something”

    That’s the only time I’ve ever been in that situation, but it just makes you sick to hear someone be so cruel to someone they supposedly love…

    Comment by Annie — September 22, 2007 @ 7:38 pm |Reply

  13. Good for you for challenging the situation. I don’t know if I would have done that. If he was truly her brother, maybe she now knows not to take him along on any shopping trips. I hate to see girls who seem to think they’re “stuck” in a bad relationship, though we’ve all done it to one degree or another.

    P.S. I emailed you the other day, did you get it? Do you still have the same email addy?

    Comment by carnealian — September 23, 2007 @ 10:00 am |Reply

  14. Lass, You are brave for doing that. Good for you for standing up on her behalf like that.

    Comment by buttercup — September 26, 2007 @ 11:30 am |Reply

  15. I’m late to comment, but I think its great you stood up for her. There is always the risk that intervention by another person could make the attacker even angrier, but I think you handled it well. It’s frustrating to witness that situation and not be able to separate them!

    Comment by Laura — September 29, 2007 @ 8:10 am |Reply

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