Interstellar Adventures

October 2, 2007


Filed under: Elle & Zed,It's Me, Lass,Mom Life — by InterstellarLass @ 11:04 pm

On Monday, Zed had his Fery First Jr. High School Career Football Game. He didn’t inform us of this, but before his VFJHSCFG, Zed was promoted to 1st string B team. Beside one muffed snap, he supposedly was pretty perfect as the center/snapper. And I missed it. I am so torn up and sad that I missed his game. I would give a million dollars to have seen that game. Because if I had a million dollars to give, I wouldn’t have to be on a business trip and missing my baby’s game.

I talked to him tonight about his game last night. He felt like he did well. AND, his coach told him today that his snaps were perfect during his VFJHSCFG. Now all he needs is to grow a few inches and gain about 20 pounds, and he’d be on the A team. Seriously. It’s his size that is keeping him back from being the ace snapper on the team. I aform PROUD. My heart is bursting with proudness and happiness.

Zed also has qualified for the Duke University TIP (Talent Identification Program). Based on his state test scores, he has qualified to be able to take the SAT in the 7th grade. If he does well, he’ll get special recognition and possibly the opportunity to take classes next summer at Duke University. I also realize he’s in 7th grade. He’s very, very smart. But the SAT? I know how I stressed about that. My junior year. That’s 4 years of learning he has to do, But he’s supposedly smart enough to do it. I haven’t decided. I think I’m going to try him on an SAT prep book and see how he reacts to it before I decide to put him through that pressure.

 On the other hand, Elle is doing OK in school academically, but she’s having social issues. She’s had a couple of outbursts lately, probably due to stress I think. Last year she had issues with girls that were growing up before she even had the concept of growing up. Plus she’s also going through some possible hormonal/emotional issues. She also had a lot of anxiety before the school year started. See, our school district doesn’t give ‘grades’ until 3rd grade. They get pass/fail and meeting testing thresholds from Kindergarden to 2nd grade. Now she’s freaked out about failing. See, where Zach is smart and ‘gets’ it the first time through, Elle doesn’t. She’s a little slower. She doesn’t do well in group learning sessions. She does better in one-on-one learning scenarios. I think she gets anxious about how others perceive her, and she just says ‘Yes, I understand’ even if she doesn’t just so other’s won’t pay attention to her. And when she doesn’t understand, she cries.

My heart breaks for her. I’m a person that usually ‘gets’ it the first time around. So is Zed. But Elle takes longer. I think she may actually have some auditory processing issues that I plan to have her tested for this year. I KNOW that she is highly intelligent. She remembers, she figures, she assesses, she figures out all on her own. It just takes her a little longer, and maybe she needs more explanation and time that other kids.

And my heart breaks for her because I see her struggling. She’s embarassed and frustrated, and it hurts her and me. So I hope that I can work the system to get her the help that she needs. She’s continuing in speech therapy that I finally got for her at the end of last year. I’ve asked about the mentoring program that was such a big help for her last year. She really responds to one-on-one interaction. I’ve talked to the teacher about the mean little girl that is saying ugly things about Elle and telling other children not to play with my daughter. On threat of physical pain no less. Nice.

It feels bizzare to me to have one child that excels easily and to have another that has the intelligence, but still struggles. I’m frustrated and puzzled by this. But I will never give up on her.

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