Interstellar Adventures

October 8, 2007

Just Annoying

Filed under: Elle & Zed,The Ex Files — by InterstellarLass @ 9:52 am

My Ex is pushing all my buttons lately. I don’t know if it’s on purpose or if it’s just his typical narcissistic, irritating attitude that’s getting my goat. And besides politely biting his head off requesting that he change said behaviors, there’s not a lot I can do. Besides run him over with the car.

A couple of weeks ago, he couldn’t be bothered to help Elle with her homework because he was busy with the crossword. Elle told me this after I was checking her homework on Thursday night, and there were no parent corrections to her Wednesday night worksheet. Bite tongue. Nothing like an apathetic parent to help a child already struggling in school.

Last week she informed me that she wasn’t to pack clothes from home, but rather wear ‘cute outfits’ to school provided by her dad. That I then have to wash for her because now the clothes are at my house. She was informed by her father and his child bride fiancee that she dressed in ‘rags’ and that she looked horrible. A) She cries when forced to wear anything she deems ‘uncomfortable’. B) She’s a jeans and t-shirt kind of kid. C) She is tough on most of her clothes through rough play or messy eating. D) She’ll grow out of this when she’s ready, so don’t force her to dress a certain way other than fully clothed. E) She bathes nightly and brushes her teeth and hair. It’s not like she’s covered in dirt. Rage building.

This weekend, she had a late soccer game. I dropped both kids off (late in fact, but that didn’t matter because it took three long, loud bangs on the door to get The Ex’s butt out of bed) on Saturday. Game at 1. Have her there by 12:30 please. What really happened: She arrived at 5 minutes till game time, no contacts in, no allergy pill given. So she’s not warmed up, playing half blind, and is sneezing regularly through the game. But he had his Starbucks. Screaming on the inside.

And last night was the cherry on top. After weeks of him dropping the kids off at 8:00 pm, unfed, just before bedtime, I asked him to please feed them before bringing them home, especially since Elle’s bedtime is 8:30. She was getting to bed too late and having trouble waking up in the morning. What really happened? Elle walks through the door last night and informs me she hasn’t had dinner. I step outside and, in a controlled, calm voice, ask “Um, why hasn’t she eaten?” I’m informed that they ate a really big lunch at 2:30 and an hour ago she supposedly wasn’t hungry. My brain exploded. I was so angry I couldn’t even think. Elle ended up going to bed around 10:30. Because my plan involved her being fed as requested, Nick putting her to bed, and me going to the grocery store before picking Zed up from basketball timekeeping and feeding him before his 10:00 bed time.

Why is this so hard? These are basic parental responsibilities. He doesn’t have to take her to many practices or games. He has to feed them dinner four times over fourteen days. Anyone have any advice on how to remind him that these are the basics he really should be able to handle?


  1. Just thank your lucky stars you’re not married to him anymore. That would be worse!

    Comment by raehan — October 8, 2007 @ 3:06 pm |Reply

  2. Knee him in the balls? Might not change anything, but it’d make you feel better.

    Comment by serendeipity — October 8, 2007 @ 3:46 pm |Reply

  3. I have no advice, but what an @ss!

    Comment by Indigo — October 8, 2007 @ 8:33 pm |Reply

  4. Oh Man! I don’t know what to say. [[[HUGS!}}}}

    Comment by nancy — October 9, 2007 @ 9:18 am |Reply

  5. That he is your ex is the best thing.

    Comment by Jean-Luc Picard — October 9, 2007 @ 1:45 pm |Reply

  6. He will never learn if he hasn’t yet. What a jerk.

    Comment by Jolynn — October 10, 2007 @ 3:05 pm |Reply

  7. I got nothin. I’ve never been married, I don’t speak to my ex’s. But, everyone I know that has an ex has plotted their murders. That’s about the only help I can offer.

    Comment by carnealian — October 11, 2007 @ 8:17 am |Reply

  8. He obviously has control issues that he still wishes to exercise

    Comment by Sparky Duck — October 11, 2007 @ 11:29 am |Reply

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