Interstellar Adventures

July 9, 2008

Monkey pajamas

Filed under: Elle & Zed,Family & Friends,It's Me, Lass,Mr. Wonderful — by InterstellarLass @ 10:08 pm

I downloaded photos off my camera the other day. There was a photo of Elle and Pop that I took a couple of weeks before he died. It was when we realized that Pop wasn’t going to get better, and I had to talk to Elle about dying. She was quite upset, and she said she wanted a picture of Pop. So I suggested they take the photo together. Elle was wearing her monkey pajamas Pop bought her (well, Nick bought on behalf of Pop) for Christmas. She’s worn the heck out of those pajamas.

Elle & Pop

I love how Pop put on a smile for the camera. This was taken 12 days before he died. There was so much change in those last 12 days, but he actually looked really good in this picture. He still had the life in his eyes here. It was two weeks yesterday that he passed. We’re still in a fog.


I traveled for work yesterday and today. After my obligations yesterday, I got to visit my grandfather. When I saw him in December, he was still himself, able to talk even though he didn’t make much sense. When I saw him yesterday, I was more prepared than before. And I think having seen Pop decline recently maybe numbed the shock of seeing my granddaddy. But he was much thinner, and has greatly lost his ability to speak. Supposedly he has been having small strokes, which mostly go undetected, but affect his cognative ability. He’s also stopped eating due to issues with being able to swallow. So, he’s had a feeding tube installed, which is keeping him alive. He’s had some therapy, but really there isn’t much more that can be done for him. I was glad to get to see him again.


I feel like coming by here has been so depressing lately. It has been a sad time, but we aren’t just sitting around moping. We’re moving on with life as we should. We’re trying to figure out what the next steps for Nick will be. School is a possibility, which I think would be wonderful for him. We’re still exploring the options though. Right now he’s assembling furniture and moving things around. And being cute and sweet and stuff. Last weekend we celebrated the third anniversary of our first date (because we’re big dorks like that). He’s my sweetie.


  1. I want to say so much, but I can’t find the right words, so I’ll just say: Thank you for your blog.

    Comment by Cadi — July 10, 2008 @ 12:08 am |Reply

  2. Aw! Sweet pic! And very sassy p.j.’s! Talking about these things always helped me move through the mourning process. I don’t think it’s depressing to come here. Keep your chin up and love that sweet, cute guy you have!

    Comment by carnealian — July 10, 2008 @ 3:00 pm |Reply

  3. So sorry to hear about Pops. It is just so sad for you all.

    Love the Jammies though and how lovely they both look in this pic – one that Elle will always treasure.

    Take care in this sad time… Thinking of you.

    Comment by Tori — July 10, 2008 @ 6:21 pm |Reply

  4. That’s a sweet picture, he looks genuinely happy, not just smiling for the camera.

    Comment by AbbyNormal — July 11, 2008 @ 1:51 pm |Reply

  5. That’s a great picture, I’m so glad you were able to take it!

    We’ve had a recent death in our family, too. It was not someone so close to me, so I’m not moping, but I’ve been thinking a lot. I’ll keep you all in my thoughts, too. Hugs!

    Comment by Jen — July 13, 2008 @ 3:23 am |Reply

  6. Elle has never looked more like you than she does in that picture. Well, in the handful of pictures I’ve seen, I mean.

    It’s good you guys have each other to cling to during these hard times.

    Comment by Bone — July 14, 2008 @ 12:39 pm |Reply

  7. Sorry to read your news, hope you’re all ok.x

    Comment by Amanda Wilson — July 18, 2008 @ 11:59 pm |Reply

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